Everything you wanted to know, and then some. The honest truth, as I know it to be. Especially how I deal with being chronically ill with crohns, colitis, fibromyalgia and more. Keep up with me, the kids and anything else that goes through my brain.
Its actually a program called HOW CLEAN IS YOUR HOUSE! I watched this some years ago but didn't know it was a series and/or still came on. I was flipping channels one day and saw it and almost fell out my chair (off my bad, whatever haha) We all stopped in our tracks.
Now I thought this show maybe did the exception right. Nope, its not. Its actually very common. When my house isnt clean, I am upset its clothes all over the floor, which seems to be all the time. I have 5 boys and none are in touch with their feminine side. No, you didn't misread either, I said 5. The 4 kids and hubby hahaha. None of which care about what the house looks like
I admit, I used to have a slight case of OCD or something. Trust me I am 100% over that now. I felt if I didn't vacuum every day, dust once a week or had more then 2 loads of laundry piled up the entire house was just wrecked. Until I had kids and realized that when you are a real parent, your kids are first and everything else is second.
I met many parents who describe their home as a dumping grond. When you get home from work at 6p, pick up the kids from the afterschool program, take them to their soccer game, have no time for anything for dinner but maybe grilled cheese, yet again, try to do homework, showers and bedtime story, its now 9 or 10p. This is just about every, let me repeat myself, REAL parent I know
Now I say REAL parent because I also know some who say they don't have timt to help kids with the homework cause the kitchen is not clean. They cant go to their kids game because they have to do laundry all day. They cant play scrabble with their daughter because they have to go have a drink and gamble with their friends. We all know them and gawd, its so so so many of them
But back to my point, this show. So I am watching this show right. We caught it like half way in so we decide to tivo it. We have seen about 5 now and already I have stopped yelling, stressing and feeling really "dirty" about my house. You have no idea what this show has done for me
Having FMS, colitis, tachtachardia, bercitis, athritis and a host of other bothersome smaller ailments that I deal with daily, I have no time to play the maid. By the time I play with the baby, do kids homework, put up the laundry that 6 people make a day and the extra 2 loads because they are boys hahaha, its just no time for things like dusting. I dust my TV when the picture looks blurry lol
I used to beat myself up over this. Oh you have no idea how I used to just cry and cry. I would see movies on TV or go to friends houses and it wasn't like mine. Then I had to think about it though. I am married HAPPILY with 4 kids that I adore, properly raise, spend time with and put them before all else. When I talk to parents that do as I do they have the same issue. So do you really think having FMS and the rest, I can do better then a healthy person?
I tell you, watch this show. Its truly extreme, its really nasty. Yet it will let you know if a regular family is too busy and things get out of hand, why are you so down on yourself? How many times are we all blogging and crying about how bad we just want to shower but the pain is too bad. So you think you can now go clean your house every day?
I have 3 bedrooms, 2 baths, a huge yard, garage, living room, dining room and family room. Again I AM THE ONLY GIRL IN THE HOUSE. To top it off, my hubby is a great man. He works over time 3 days a week and only not the other 2 in order to be here early enough for us to do things. Right now the kids both are in chess club, 1 is in volleyball and they both just finish basketball (all free programs by the school not the real stuff but still...).
I have stopped no less then 20x writing this and its taking me hours because I have to keep getting up to tend to my family and get things done. I am also out of imuran so my toilet trips are up to about 15 a day now. To top it off, after every is finally feeling better after a family trip to the ER, then a mass visit to the pedetrician, 3 kids on antibiotics and finally getting my voice back 4 days ago, I got sick yet again. Today is the first day I awoke with no fever.
So how clean is your house? I will tell you now mine is not clean, hasnt been in 8 years now, I no longer give a crap and the most important thing is I will not beat myself up anymore. I just wont. You better not again either or I tell you I will ship this 3 year old to stay with you a week. Trust me, he is at the "why, where, when, how" age and you do not want to do that 12 hours a day hahaha
Gawd, I really gotta learn to write better and make my point in 3 paragraphs or less hahahahhaahha
and we always will!
--- Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor in the morning, Satan shudders and says, "Oh shit...she's awake!"
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